[ random rant — this is just getting something off my chest ]
Much like you can’t yield someone else’s right of way when you’re driving around in your car, you can’t control what someone else does with their own life.
It puts you in a rough spot to see someone you love in a position where they are in a real fix. A position where they get themselves just about trapped, or at least think they are trapped.
You can’t remotely reach out and un-trap someone who has mentally trapped themselves.
All you can do is offer a hand and hope they take it.
Even if the right thing to do hurts in the short term.