All of us are on a journey. From birth to death we live in the skin we’ve been given always striving to (well, hopefully at least) be a better version of yourself than the day before.
Learning more about yourself and your flaws is a painful process at times. The flaws that we live with are put into relief when we start interacting with others and their flaws.
For the most part you get by with the day-to-day because by the time we reach adulthood we’ve knocked enough of the sharp edges off our persons. The average interaction works well enough that we’re not confronted with our flaws. It’s only when you let someone simultaneously get close enough and they find one of the pointy bits that have yet to be smoothed out.
We all work at it (well, hopefully at least) to find those bits of bad and fix those as well.
Of course the chances of getting them all are zero.
But try we still.