I’ve been reading a book by one of the hosts of a podcast I listen to. My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging & Polyamory, by Cooper Beckett. I’ve been listening to the folks on that podcast for a while now. (In case you hadn’t noticed, I’m down with the sex positive folks — just sayin’) I’m about 3/8ths the way through it at the moment and it’s really resonating with me — how, in relationships, while you have to look out for your partner’s/partners’ best interest, you also have to ensure that you’re in good shape as well.
So, what about compersion? It’s being there for your partner — supporting them in what they are doing.
Here’s the fucked up thing… recently the thing I’ve gotten the most jealous about is the compersion I’m seeing in other people.
Keep in mind that compersion is the opposite of jealousy. It’s enjoying your partner’s joy.
I was reading on Reddit (not linking to give too much away) a note that someone got left. It’s everything that I would possibly want to find myself. Of all the things to get jealous about, it’s that.
Maybe it’s not really jealousy I’m feeling. I think it’s more envious. It’s a subtle distinction for sure.
And I don’t have a simple solution to that problem.